It is hard to appreciate a negative person. They suck the life out of you and your projects until you are but a shell of your former self. In an article for CIO.com, Rich Hein explores how to best handle these vampires. There are nine tips for dealing with toxic coworkers:
- Label the behavior.
- Be a part of the solution.
- Change your perspective.
- Is it just styles clashing?
- Create a better relationship.
- Set time barriers.
- Narrow in on the real issue for you.
- Develop your emotional intelligence.
- Take care of you.
I Want to Suck Your Morale
People are not necessarily toxic; it is their behaviors. The employee is still responsible and accountable for their actions, but their behavior is not necessarily who they are. Gaining a better understanding of their behavior will additionally help you to eradicate it. Sure, it might seem easier to point the finger at the person and blame them for all of the recent negativity. However, perhaps you have played a hand in their recent negative outburst. If you are part of the problem, adapt your own behavior to become a part of the solution.
You cannot control the world, nor can you control this person. Rather than wasting your efforts trying to change them, you could just change your own perspective. Having some “me time” allows for you to better approach situations and handle them in a more level-headed manner. Remember that there is a huge difference between a person who is difficult to work with and one who is toxic. Difficult employees are often too stubborn and set in their ways to change. This can cause a clash of styles, which is not easy to deal with, but it is a different problem that requires a different approach.
Developing a better relationship with a person can help encourage more pleasant outcomes. Simply taking an interest in them can replace toxic behavior with a friendly demeanor. On the flip side, it is incredibly easy to get sucked into someone’s gray cloud of doom, so don’t! Set the tone of the conversation and begin by stating you only have a few minutes to talk. Do not allow them to dwell on this toxic mindset.
If these coworkers are affecting your work, tell them. If they refuse to try to amend their poor behavior, you may need to ask a manager to intervene. Emotional intelligence helps you to understand people’s motivations and behaviors. Additionally, emotional intelligence helps you approach these toxic situations with a rational head.
Ultimately, no one is going to make you a priority except you. Make sure you are getting enough sleep and eating right so that you are at the top of your game. Your wellness is important. You can read the original article here: http://www.cio.com/article/2968318/staff-management/9-tips-for-dealing-with-toxic-coworkers.html