If you are being honest with yourself, are you engaging in passive aggressive behavior? In a post for Project Management Insight, Karen Munro elaborates on how to distinguish passive aggressive behavior and how to modify these deep-rooted, sometimes knee-jerk reactions.
Do you often not share your honest opinion about a project, despite being directly asked? Or maybe you get upset with someone but do not tell them why. Maybe you praised someone in a public setting but criticized them behind their back. All of these minute behaviors that seem sometimes natural are in actuality passive aggressive reactions to a situation.
So how can these bad habits be broken? The first step is to actually take notice to what brings about these actions. When these reactions are automatic, it may be difficult to notice them, but with time you will be able to see what you are doing and then be able to start the fight of stopping it. It does however boil down to honesty; be honest about your feelings, no matter how difficult that may be.
Writing down your patterned behavior can be the secret to helping you put a stop to it, and having it in writing helps to make it clear that you have taken notice to the problem and are actively doing something about it. It may also be helpful to find the root cause of why you behave this way. Perhaps you have ill feelings about a certain situation, and when you are in a similar one, it provokes feelings that bring about passive aggressive behavior.
Breaking the habit of a lifetime will never occur overnight, and that is okay. Be patient with yourself. You may even slip up and relapse into old habits. All that you need to do is be open to the idea of change and willing to accept your flaws.
You can read the original post here: https://projectmanagementinsight.com/communication/being-passive-aggressive/