Linda A. Hill and Kent Lineback remind us in an article for Fortune that being “liked” is not the same as being trusted or respected. If you have an aversion to conflict, you need to overcome it. And if you think being your subordinates’ friend is the best way to make them listen to you—well, it’s not.
Bossy as a Good Thing
Friends are supposed to be equal, and friendship should exist for its own sake. Bosses and their subordinates are not equal, and friendship is a bad way to exert influence over people. Worse, being reluctant to terminate a poor-performing employee just because of friendship is a very ugly situation. For advice on how to become a boss rather than a friend, you can read Hill and Lineback’s full article: http://fortune.com/2011/01/18/be-the-boss-not-a-friend/